Ask DJ Lyons: Heal Body Image Issue from Intermediate Grades

Negative things that happen to us as children can come back to haunt us for decades.

I am operating under the theory that until I heal what happened to me years ago, I will not be able to fully heal from current body image issues. It may very well be those past childhood triggers that are part of what is holding me back from being able to lose the extra pounds I've been carrying around these last twenty some years.

We can look at it a little like when a pearl forms inside an oyster. There is some irritation that happens such as a grain of sand. The oyster manages to put a layer of insulation over this irritation - somewhat covering it up. Each time more irritation happens, the layers of insulation grow and expand. Eventually, this turns into a pearl inside the oyster.

In our case, each time our body image feels attacked, we put on a layer of insulation. We insulate ourselves with pound after pound. Some part of us must feel safer with all that extra insulation aka weight. That extra weight is hiding the pearl we have hidden inside - our true selves.

If we can deal with these early childhood triggers, perhaps we can finally learn that it is truly safe to be slender. When that happens, the extra weight will finally be easy to release and let go. That is part of the purpose of this and other similar hubs.

For maxiumum benefit, this is how this hub will be structured.

I will share my body issues from that former time period that may be still causing me feelings of angst.

There will be a comment section where you, my readers, can choose to share body issues that you might have had when you were around that age. Perhaps by reading my anecdotes, it might trigger some memories of your own.

Then I will spiritually work through those feelings of anxiety using a process I co-created called the Reintegration Healing Process.

Afterward, there will be another comment section where you can share your thoughts and reactions. Plus, if you decided to apply the Reintegration Healing Process to your own past body issues, you might want to include testimonials of how you feel after doing that.

So far, I don't recall if I had any negative body and appearance issues when I was in primary grades.

My family and I moved from Pittsford, New York, to Kingsport, Tennessee, when I was getting ready to enter the fourth grade. During fourth and fifth grade, I had two big appearance issues.

Number 1 - My ears were seemingly too big for my face. To my way of thinking, they reminded me of Mickey Mouse ears. This was probably because I mostly wore my hair in a pony tail every single day with my very thick hair tucked in behind my ears. This caused my ears to stick out even more. Thankfully, as the years passed, the size of my face and the size of my ears became more proportional. But it really bothered me when I was that age.

Number 2 - I had Bugs Bunny teeth. This was definitely my fault. At night, I sucked my thumb. I did this until I was nine years old. My parents tried putting a thumb guard on my hand to try to prevent this. I merely changed thumbs. I seem to recall they put some nasty-tasting stuff on that thumb as well. Once again, I merely changed thumbs.

Naturally all this thumb-sucking caused me to have a very bad case of bucked teeth. It was not until they gave me back braces for two years that they managed to come up with a great solution that would break me of this bad habit. They put spikes sticking out of those back braces. Naturally, when I would stick my thumb in my mouth, I would feel sharp needle-sharp spikes sticking into my thumb. I no longer sucked my thumb with that kind of provocation. I do recall that it took me a while to be able to eat without getting my tongue pricked by those spikes as well.

I wore back braces for two years to spread out my teeth that were too close together. Then I wore the normal kind of braces for three years. The braces finally got removed in ninth grade. My teeth were straight and beautiful from then on. But given that I had to wear glasses from fifth grade onward and had those two abnormalities, it seemed to precipitate a lot of name-calling like Four-Eyes and Metal-Mouth. I don't remember if they had a term for my overly big ears.

The elementary school I attended was a K-6 school. Two big appearances issues surfaced during this year.

Number 1 - Since I was so tired of wearing my hair in a pony tail every day, I got my hair cut. Unfortunately, layering hair had not come into vogue yet. The hair dresser gave me a blunt cut. This caused my very thick naturally curly, naturally frizzy hair to stick out. I basically had bad hair days all throughout my sixth-grade year.

Number 2 - Girls were not allowed to wear pants when I attended elementary school. We had to wear dresses or skirts every day. It was not until I entered Junior High in 1970 that they finally changed their rulings.

I would wear short socks or knee socks with those dresses and skirts. In the spring of my sixth-grade year, I was sitting in the back of the school bus with one of the girls from my neighborhood. She informed me that it was shameful that I had hair on my legs. I felt quite humiliated. What was so funny is that I had baby-fine blond hair on my legs that was not that noticeable.

I immediately went home and informed my mother that I had to start shaving my legs. My mother went out and purchased a razor for me. That began the years and years of the rat race of having to shave my legs. Sigh!

I also wanted to start wearing hose. I don't think they made pantiehose back in those days. I remember going to visit my paternal grandparents in Anderson, Indiana, in June of 1970. In preparation for Junior High, my folks made a big deal of purchasing hose and a garter belt for me. My uncle made me feel quite embarrassed by the whole experience. He was not yet married and perhaps lacked in maturity at the time. He was rather a jokester, and I was feeling awkward and self-conscious.

Does this remind you of your own former issues regarding Appearance or Weight? If so, feel free to share in the comment section below.

Here is the step-by-step process to follow as you practice Self-Healing using the Reintegration Healing Process. It is a combination of elements I learned at Delphi University in McCaysville, GA, Reiki classes I have taken, and a process taught to me by my team of angels and spirit guides.

Click SELF-HEALING to read the entire how-to article on FireHOW.com.

Of those former memories, the one that has the most charge for me is the one where the neighborhood girl twitted me about my hairy legs. That is the memory I would like to heal first.

You can check out the above tutorial link of how to use this healing process. In a nutshell, this is how the Reintegration Healing Process works.

Step 1:

First I will say a prayer requesting healing and release from the negative pain and angst that this memory has caused me. That dis-ease may have been part of what contributed to me having the disease of being overweight.

Step 2:

Afterward, I will repeat the following words:

I am open and willing to be healed. I am willing to process the message this physical dis-ease and negative memory is trying to communicate. Once I have really heard its message, I am ready to send these entities to the light and embrace my healing. I understand this may only release one layer of this malady. I also understand it may happen all in one session. I will dedicate myself to going the distance until they and I are both free.

Step 3:

I am going to picture me as a sixth grader. We will call her Little D. I will also picture this girl with the first initial of N. She had occasion to make trouble for me in the past. In my mind's eye, the grown-up version of me will be talking to Little D and Little N. Both of these girls are either 11 or 12 years told, depending on when their birthdays fall.

Since this incident happened on the school bus, I am going to picture myself walking down the bus aisle to the very back of the bus and sitting down between Little D and Little N. They are sitting rather far apart. Little D is frowning and feeling worried, confused, and humiliated. Little N is gloating that she came out on top of this particular power play.

Step 4:

I will be going on the premise of one of my favorite quotes by Dr. Helen Schucman, the author of The Course of Miracles, "Every Action is either an Expression of Love or a Cry for Love."

Knowing that when one person feels motivated to put another person down, he or she is crying out for more love, more respect, or more status. The person being put down is also crying out for more love, more respect, or more status. Therefore, we know that Little D and Little N are both in need of compassion and love as they are each crying out for that in their own particular ways.

I will pray to have the ability to demonstrate that Christ consciousness that Jesus Christ so aptly demonstrated. He urged us to love God and love mankind. He urged us to show forgiveness. I will request that the trinity of God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit will help me generate a true sense of compassion and deep love for those two young girls.

Please note that this is what works for me. You can pray to whatever higher power has meaning for you.

I will mentally converse with Little D first as that feels simpler to me. Afterward, I will converse with Little N. This is how the dialogue will go:

DJ Lyons: (Reaching out my right arm to put it around LIttle D, I will hug her to me and then say:) Little D, I put my arms around you with so much love. I know that you have been harboring your energy inside of me all these years. I want you to know that I totally forgive you. Do you have anything you would like to tell me?

Please note: This is all in your imagination. Just imagine how this conversation would go if you had the opportunity to talk to a younger version of yourself and with a younger version of someone who had once did something to hurt or offend you. Or perhaps you did something to hurt or offend them and you need to make amends.

Little D: Thank you for forgiving me. I know that I have been hanging out in your memory banks for a long time. I certainly didn't mean to cause you trouble. I just felt so upet by what Little N, as you are calling her, did to me. I guess there was some part of her that was trying to help me, but she did it in a way that I found really embarrassing and humiliating. I felt so bad about that. I also felt really bad because she had done some other stuff to me from fourth grade on. All that angst I felt put some insulation on my future body that is your current body now. So, I am really sorry about that.

I still feel really upset about all that. I hope you can find a way to help me heal from all of that.

DJ Lyons: Little D, I will do my best. And like I said, dear one, I totally forgive you. It is really going to be okay. Just hang in there. We're going to smooth things over once and for all.

Little D: Okay, I will. Or at least, I'll try.

DJ Lyons: Little D, we both need to work together to find a way to love and forgive Little N. Will you come along for the ride, so to speak, and let's work together as a team to love and forgive her?

Little D: Uh, ..., well, ... okay. I'll give it a try.

DJ Lyons: When I say some of these words, just mentally think them to yourself or, if you like, repeat them after me.

Little D: Okay.

Step 5:

Since there is more than one entity, I will now go through the previous step with that other entity. With the help of the trinity of God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit, I am going to ask for their help to give me a sense of forgiveness and compassion and deep love for Little N.

Since this is going to be more challenging, I am going to do the in-between step of addressing some of the other memories that still hold a charge for me where that former Little D felt attacked.

DJ Lyons: Little N, I know that when I moved from New York to Tennessee, you were one of the girls who was sometimes nice to me and sometimes mean.

DJ Lyons: I want you to know that with the help of God, I totally forgive you for all the times I felt attacked by you when I was in the fourth grade. What about you, Little D?

Little D: Wow! God is really powerful. I actually am feeling stronger. Yeah, I'm ready to let those fourth-grade negative memories go. Okay, Little N, I want you to know that I forgive you too for all the negativity that passed between us during the fourth grade.

DJ Lyons: Good job, Little D!

Little N, I want you to know that I also totally forgive you for all the times that I felt attacked by you when I was in the fifth grade.

Little D: Yeah! I can do this. Okay, Little N. I totally forgive you for all the negativity that passed between us when we were in the fifth grade.

DJ Lyons: Little N, there was that time when you and I were sitting in the cafeteria. This probably took place before school. You said something that I perceived as mean. When I called you on it, you said, "I was just kidding!"

I knew that you really totally meant it or you half-meant it. You were just covering yourself by pretending like you were just kidding. First, I want to thank you for that lesson. It was a lesson that I have profited from in a couple of ways. For one thing, I learned to be more vigilant about my words and other people's words. I began to be able to detect the difference between a true put-down and gentle teasing. Also, I made use of that lesson years later when I taught conflict resolution techniques to middle school students for five years. So, in a way, what you did was a gift. So I thank you for that.

Also, I want you to know that I can now forgive you. After all, perhaps I did something to annoy you. Or perhaps you were just dealing with your own sense of angst and this was the only way you knew to attemtp to make yourself feel better. I feel a true sense of compassion and love for you. I totally forgive you.

Little D: Wow! DJ, I never thought about that some of this stuff I'm going through might have a useful purpose for me in the future. That's pretty cool! Okay, yeah, I feel ready to forgive you, Little N, for those words of yours on that day.

This is kind of amazing, DJ. I am feeling lighter.

DJ Lyons: I am too, Little D. It feels pretty good.

Okay, Little N, I also forgive you and your boyfriend for trying to break my boyfriend and I up. Once again, I was able to turn that whole incident into a learning situation for my middle school students in that conflict resolution class. Plus, I'm sure you were dealing with some of your own stuff back then. So, I feel ready to totally forgive you about that.

Little D: That's kind of hard. But I know now that I should have checked my facts instead of believing her and her boyfriend. I learned a pretty important lesson. Plus, that's pretty cool that DJ turned it into a story and role-play for her conflict resolution class. So, okay, yeah, I believe I'm ready to forgive you for that.

Please note: By this time, I am feeling love and compassion for Little N, enough so that I can now put my left arm around her as I continue with my words of forgiveness.

DJ Lyons: Okay, Little N, I am ready. I put my arms around you with love. I am ready to forgive you for the way you handled letting me know it was time for me to shave my legs. It could have been more diplomatic and tactful; however, you also were doing me a favor, in a way. So, Little N, I put my arms around you with love and yes, I totally forgive you for that and for all other things that happened between us of a negative nature.

Little D: Yeah, I forgive you for that to.

DJ Lyons: Little N, do you have anything you would like to say?

Little N: Uh, I had no idea I had such a strong affect on either of you. I'm really a nice person. And yeah, I was dealing with a lot of my own stuff. So, DJ and LIttle D, please forgive me. I am really sorry!

In my imagination, the three of us give each other a loving hug.

Step 6:

Please understand that the fault does not totally belong to that entity or those entities. We bear part of the responsibility for harboring their energy inside of us. We have kept that entity or entities trapped inside of us. That trapped energy, that dis-ease, can turn into disease or extra layers of insulation aka excess weight. So, next, I turn to both Little D and Little N and state:

DJ Lyons: Little D and Little N, I want you to know that I am so very sorry for keeping you trapped inside of me for all these years. Instead of dealing with those feelings of angst when they happened and then releasing them and moving on, I instead allowed them to fester. So please, please, please forgive me for keeping you both trapped inside of me all this time. I really hope you will forgive me.

Little D: Yeah, DJ, I feel love for you too. I realize now that you were not really aware that I was trapped inside of you. I'm excited that I'm free of my own negative feelings about Little N. I also feel ready to totally forgive you as well, DJ.

DJ Lyons: Thank you so much, Little D. I really appreciate you being willing to forgive me. What about you, Little N?

Little N: Yeah, now that I understand more about all of it. yeah, I forgive you, DJ. And Little D, I forgive you as well.

Little D: I forgive you too, Little N.

Wow! This is pretty cool! We all forgive each other. I am feeling lighter and better.

Little N: I feel better too.

DJ Lyons: I feel lighter and much more peaceful now. Thank you so much to both of you.

Step 7:

Now that forgiveness has happened and all sides, there is no reason to keep them inside of you anymore. You can release them to the light of God's eternal realm. Or perhaps you prefer the verbiage of releasing them to the Light.

You may feel capable of sending them to the Light on your own. Sometimes, the entities don't really want to go. Sometimes, you have trouble releasing them. So, in that case, I usually mentally ask my guardian angel to help carry this entity or those entities off to the Light.

DJ Lyons: Guardian Angel, please help lift Little D and Little N up and out to the Light. I thank you in advance for your help. Little D, you are free. Little N, you are free as well. You are both free. Off to the Light of God's eternal realm you go with my love and grateful thanks!

Step 8:

Please be aware that nature abhors a vacuum. Imagine that there was a physical space inside your body where those two entities resided. As they vacate that space and go into the light, you do not want some other negative emotion to fill that empty space, causing a new set of problems. So, ask for the help of God or Jesus or your Guardian Angel or your Spirit Guide or some other higher power who resonates to you to help fill that vacated space with Divine Love and Divine Light and Divine Energy.

DJ Lyons: The Trinity of God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit, please fill that vacant space with Divine Love and Divine Light and Divine Energy. Please bring healing to all the surrounding cells who might have been negatively impacted by their trapped presence all these years. Thank you so much in advance for your ever-present help and unconditional Love for me. I am so very grateful!

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That is how the Reintegration Healing Process works. You can use it on anything that is bothering you, past or present. As for me, I feel very peaceful and serene. I feel lighter; therefore, I am affirming more and more of just how safe it is to release that extra insulation and to be slender.

One aspect of Little D has been sent off to the light. It was the aspect of Little D with all her interactions with Little N. There are many other aspects of Little D still trapped inside of me.

Just imagine Little D with big actual Mickey Mouse ears, but instead of them being mouse ears you can put on like a costume, perhaps picture a little girl with actual Mickey Mouse ears attached to her head. Also, picture a little girl with Bugs Bunny bucked teeth.

When looking at photographs of myself from third grade, fourth grade, fifth grade, and part of sixth grade, I cannot help but notice those protruding ears accentuated by the hair I had pushed behind my ears. Also, I can see my toothy grins with what looked like, to my mind's eye, like Bugs Bunny bucked teeth.

So I will picture, in my mind's eye, Little D as she looked when I had my fourth-grade school picture taken. That's when you can most notice the Mickey Mouse ears and the Bugs Bunny buck teeth.

Step 1:

First I will say a prayer requesting healing and release from the negative pain and angst that this memory has caused me. That dis-ease may have been part of what contributed to me having the disease of being overweight.

Step 2:

Afterward, I will repeat the following words:

I am open and willing to be healed. I am willing to process the message this physical dis-ease and negative memory is trying to communicate. Once I have really heard its message, I am ready to send this entity off to the light and embrace my healing. I understand this may only release one layer of this malady. I also understand it may happen all in one session. I will dedicate myself to going the distance until she and I are both free.

Step 3:

I am going to picture me as a fourth grader. We will call her Little D. I still recall that on that day, Little D was wearing a forest green skirt and a knit top with forest green and white horizontal stripes. She came to school wearing her usual pony tail. Just long enough to take the picture, she took her hair down from the pony tail. She tucked her flyaway hair behind her ears. Then the photographer took the shot.

DJ Lyons: Little D, I know that my vision of you with Mickey Mouse ears and Bugs Bunny bucked teeth has been haunting me for all these years. Just like in that Ghost Whisperer show where the character of Melinda would see the ghosts she needed to help looking rather ghastly at first, once they had worked through their trauma and were ready to go to the light, they looked quite attractive and at peace. So I know that right now, I am picturing you with gigantic ears and gigantic bucked teeth. Once we get through with this healing process, you will look like you, a little girl going through a brief awkward phase, as so many young people do.

So Little D, dear one, I put my arms around you with so much love. I know that you have been harboring your energy inside of me all this time. I want you to know that I love you and I totally forgive you.

Do you have anything to communicate to me?

Little D: I sure do! That's not very nice. You have been calling me names for years. I couldn't help it that my hair was so thick. I also couldn't help that my head still had some growing to do. I couldn't really help the bucked teeth. I don't like to be called names. So yeah, I have been putting some layers of fat on you, kind of in revenge for all your name-calling. So, do you still forgive me, now that you know that?

Step 4:

DJ Lyons: Yes, Little D. I do totally forgive you. But more importantly, I want you to know how sorry I am that I did all that name-calling of you. It was kind of my awkward way to dealing with some of my past memories in a somewhat humorous fashion.

Little D: It didn't feel humorous to me. It just felt mean!

DJ Lyons: Little D, I am so very sorry! Please, please, please forgive me for calling you all those names. I am really sorry. I am also so sorry that I've kept you trapped inside of me all these years. Will you forgive me, please?

Little D: Yeah! I forgive you. I feel much better now - especially now that I know that very soon, I'm going to be free.

Step 5:

Mentally, I picture the two of us hugging. Now, when I see her, I no longer see the huge ears and the bucked teeth. Instead, I see a cute little girl in need of love and compassion. I feel great love for her.

DJ Lyons: Little D, you are free to go to the light now. Do you feel ready to go?

Little D: Yeah, I do. DJ, I love you! I'm so excited! I feel that suctioning effect breaking loose. I'm free. Whoopee! I'm free! I'm free! I'm free!

DJ Lyons: Go in peace, Little D. Thank you and I love you!

Mentally, I picture my Guardian Angel accompanying her to the Light so that she doesn't accidentally lose her way.

Step 6:

Remember, Nature abhors a vacuum. The vacant space that was once occupied by that version of Little D needs to be mentally filled with Divide Love, Light, and Energy so that no other negative anst will take her place.

DJ Lyons: The Trinity of God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit, please fill that new vacant space with Divine Love and Divine Light and Divine Energy. Please bring healing to all the surrounding cells who might have been negatively impacted by her trapped presence all these years. Thank you so much in advance for your ever-present help and unconditional Love for me. I am so very grateful!

Until I turned 20, I was at war with my hair. It was thick, somewhat course, naturally curly, and quite frizzy. In elementary school, I usually wore it in a pony tail. If I wore it down, I would eventually transform into Cousin It from the black and white TV version of The Adam's Family. It was NOT a pretty sight.

In sixth grade, I got it cut. Sadly, getting one's hair layered was not yet in vogue. So my hair stuck out at odd angles and did not look very good. Add to that, I had to start wearing glasses to read the chalk board in the fifth grade. Sometime during my sixth grade year, I got braces. So now, I had a triple whammy against me. Oh, man! Months and months of having a bad hair day.

In Junior High and High School, in an attempt to fit in to the current style of having straight long flowing hair, my mother would help me roll my hair in the opposite direction from the curl. Then I would have to sit under a hair dryer for three hours; yet still, some of my hair would still be damp.

I had to take that noisy hair dryer with me to college. My first quarter, I shared a dorm room with three other girls. They did not appreciate me taking up room with that hair dryer nor the hours I was trapped having to sit there trying to get my hair dry.

One night, a bunch of upper classmen with long hair ganged up on me in the dorm bathroom. They were not being mean. In my best interest, they spent until 1:00 in the morning talking me into getting my hair cut really short. I finally gave in.

The next day, a friend drove me the 12 miles to the next town and let me off with my bicycle at a hair dresser. I got my hair cut and was thrilled with the results. She layered it and showed me how to accentuate the natural curl in an easy way. I have to admit, it looked great. Then I had to ride my bike the twelve miles back to my college along a branch of the Mississippi River. I put on my knit cap and started riding.

I finally arrived back at my dorm. Several of the girls gathered around for the grand unveiling. Unfortunately, the long sweaty, windy ride and the knit cap did not do my hair any favors. I boo-hooed when I saw the results. Thankfully, one of the girls worked some magic and got it looking good again. I was fairly happy with my hair after that. The best part is that I never had to sit under that hair dryer again. I learned to just let me hair dry naturally.

I went to college in the midwest. It was across the river from St. Louis. I still remember getting ready to go to class. I would wet my hair completely, barely press a towel into it to soak up the excess moisture, then I would bend over and shake my hair from side to side similar to a dog shaking its body to try to dry its fur. I would use my fingers to accentuate the curls. I also used a pick and a round brush. Then I would head outdoors minus a hat.

In the winter, my hair would instantly freeze. I didn't dare touch my hair as it might break off. As I sat in the warm college classrooms, my hair would thaw out and be completely dry. It also would look pretty good, if I do say so myself.

When I turned 20, I attended San Francisco State University for one semester. It was then that I realized that people were paying good money for what my hair did naturally. From that point on, I was pretty happy with my hair.

Fast forward several years to about 1991 or 1992. I had been telling stories professionally from 1989 forward. I decided to let my hair grow long again. This time, I wore it in several long braids - from 2 to 38. When people talked about my storytelling performances, they might not always remember my name; however, they almost always remembered my long braids. That became my trademark as a storyteller. I kind of grew to define myself by my hair.

Then on January 7, 2010, I got diagnosed with Stage 3A Breast Cancer. As part of my treatment plan, I went through chemo. (FYI - In less than a year, I was cancer-free. So, no worries! Smile!) As you might have guessed, chemo caused my hair to fall out. Just like Samson from the Samson and Delilah Bible story, when Samson got his locks shorn, he lost his great strength; when I lost my hair, I seemed to feel, for a time, that I lost part of my sense of identity. I had to find a way to reinvent myself.

It is now nearly the last day of January of 2011. At this writing, my hair is growing in thick and soft. With the help of a bottle, it is back to being blond. Chemo can change the color and texture and style of your hair, by the way. My husband loves my new soft and silky hair. He would prefer that I keep it short like it is now. I will probably please myself by letting it once again grow long enough to braid. I am so very grateful to again have hair.

So, to get down to brass tacks, I've gone through several years where my hair was my frenemy. It is definitely time to heal the charge around ever being at odd with my hair. It's time to use the Reintegration Healing Process for that purpose.

Step 1:

First I will say a prayer requesting healing and release from the negative pain and angst that these memories have caused me. That dis-ease may have been part of what contributed to me having the disease of being overweight.

Step 2:

Afterward, I will repeat the following words:

I am open and willing to be healed. I am willing to process the messages this physical dis-ease and negative memories are trying to communicate. Once I have really heard its message, I am ready to send these entities to the light and embrace my healing. I understand this may only release one layer of this malady. I also understand it may happen all in one session. I will dedicate myself to going the distance until they and I are both free.

Step 3:

I picture walking up to Little D in the sixth grade after she got that short blunt hair cut. I also picture myself conversing with different version sof Little D through the years when I felt anxiety about my hair. To keep it simple, I will call all these entities Little D even though some of them were no longer little at all.

Representative memories that still hold a charge:

1. 6th-grade Little D with short, flyaway hair.
2. High school Little D sitting under a hair dryer for 3 hours
3. College freshman Little D in the dorm bathroom allowing several upper classman to talk her into getting her hair cut really short
4. Grown-up Little D during her first marriage. She had taken down all the braids and allowed her hair to fluff out. Her husband came home from work and made her feel quite unattractive.
5. Little D losing all her hair due to chemo
6. Bald-headed Little D wearing the scarves, hats, or the wig.
7. Little D with her hair growing back in way too slowly to suit her until she tried several solutions.

FYI - To see the braids and to learn these helpful hair re-growing tips, you might want to check out the following link:

Step 3 continued:

I will address all 7 of those entities - those past Little D's.

DJ Lyons: To all 7 of you Little D's, I put my arms around each of you with so much love. Let's get in a great big hug huddle.

If there are any other Little D's who feel you need to be a part of this - that I made you feel belittled due to my reaction to you and your hair - welcome. Come one, come all!

I have the sense that several more Little D's showed up for this event. Some came in as a group. Some slowly came in on their own.

As each showed up, I welcomed them with open arms of love.

DJ Lyons: I put my arms around each of you with so much love.

My sense is that there is a whole convention hall filled with multiple Little D's - all with hair worn in a huge variety of ways. There are so many of them that I have to walk up on a stage and stand behind a podium to make myself seen and heard.

Even as I am getting in position to begin, a few more stragglers show up. They shyly walk to the edge of the stage. I rush over to hug and make them feel welcome as well.

I return to the podium and look out at this multitude of Little D's that I had made feel belittled and less than. What a shock to realize that for every one of these Little D's, I had taken on an extra layer of insulation - an extra ounce, an extra gram, or perhaps an extra pound of fat.

One purpose of this hub is to help me to be aware and you, my readers, to realize that it does not pay to be at war with any part of yourself. That dis-ease has the potential to eventually become disease or being overweight.

Please note: You might want to read this role-play about Squirrel rejecting his bushy tail to learn more about the importance of not rejecting part of your own body. See the link below that I posted as part of my position as being the School Conflict Resolution Examiner at the national level on Examiner.com.

Step 3 continued:

DJ Lyons: Welcome, all you Little D's. I am so grateful to all of you for showing up for this event. I have hugged each of you individually. Please imagine me hugging you mentally now as I state that I put my arms around you with so much love. I know that each and every one of you have been harboring your energy inside of me for all these weeks and months and years. Even so, I totally love you and forgive you.

Does any of you have anything to say?

I have the sense of one of the Little D's standing up and humorously stating, "Well, it's about time!!!" We all roar with laughter. This eases the feelings of tension.

Another Little D stands up and says, "It really hurt my feelings the way you often put us down."

I wanted to rush up to her to say I'm sorry. I held myself back as it was my job to allow them to speak uninterrupted. It was my job not to speak - but to actively listen.

Another Little D stood up in tears and said, "I couldn't help it that my hair was like that. You didn't have to be a bully about that."

That stung. Since 1998, I have prided myself as being a Conflict Resolution Specialist and anti-bullying advocate. From 1998 until they had a budget-cut in the spring of 2003, I taught over 500 middle school students a year conflict resolution and character education techniques and strategies. Since 2008, I have been posting stories, role-plays, articles, and lesson plans on Examiner.com as the School Conflict Resolution Examiner at the national level. So it felt horrible to stand accused of being a bully to myself. Gulp!

Another Little D stood up and stated, "Yeah! I felt bullied by you too!"

A bunch of others said, "Yeah! Me too!"

You could hear their voices echoing throughout the room.

Finally, it was quiet.

I asked, "Does anyone have anything else to say?"

I waited. Another jokester jumps up and said, "The Defense rests!" We all laugh amidst our tears.

Step 4:

DJ Lyons: To all you Little D's, I am so very sorry I made you feel bad. I feel great regret that I did that. I realize now that I have kept each and every one of you trapped inside of me all this time. I am very sorry about that. Please, please, please forgive me.

I wait. Sixth-grader Little D runs up on the stage and gives me a hug. She says, "I forgive you, DJ."

Then she takes my hand and leads me off the stage.

Another Little D walks up, hugs me, and says, "I forgive you, DJ."

One by one, each Little D does the same. Until . . .

Finally, there is only one LIttle D left.

I walk up to her and gently say, "Won't you please forgive me too? I am really truly sorry for doing that to you."

She thinks for a bit. She says, "It really hurt!"

I say, "I realize that now. I promise to be more aware of what I say to all future Little D's as I continue to live my life. I promise to be more gentle with myself regarding my hair."

She finally relents, walks up, and allows me to hug her. I hug her hard and say, "I forgive you. I love you! Will you please forgive me?"

She nods her head. Then finally, she hugs me hard as well. She says, "I forgive you too, DJ."

I say, "Thank you! Thank you so much!"

Then I step back from her, look at all the Little D's, and say, "Thank all of you so much! Thank you for being here. Thank you for forgiving me."

Step 5:

DJ Lyons: Because I forgive you and you forgive me, we are free now. You especially are free to go to the light of God's eternal realm.

I picture a crwew of angels showing up as pilots and staff of a huge jet airplane.

I stand at the bottom of the ramp. I give each Little D a final hug and a ticket to get on the plane. They each hug me back.

Finally, the convention hall is empty. All the Little D's are on that freedom plane. Many of them look out the window. They smile and wave as they depart.

I wave back as the plane takes off and finally disappers from view.

Step 6:

Remembering that Nature abhors a vacuum, I make this request.

DJ Lyons: The Trinity of God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit, please help me fill all the spaces they vacated with Divine Love, Light, and Energy. I thank you so much in advance for that. I am learning  more and more that it truly is safe to release that extra insulation. It truly is safe to be slender. Thank you, God! I am so very grateful for this experience.

I feel lighter and freer than ever before. I celebrate this wonderful sense of peace.

After reading the book by Alex Loyd called The Healing Codes, I decided that it would really help give the Reintegration Healing Process the extra oomph it needs. Alex Loyd came up with four hand positions you can use to great effect to contribute to working toward a healing.

Please note that my hub and his book are not meant to replace a physician's advice and care. I still go to doctors. This is to be used in addition to their help. They are treating symptoms. The Reintegration Healing Process and The Healing Code help deal with the root where the dis-ease originally turned into overweight or disease or depression.

The person in the next video shows you three out of the four hand positions. The only one she does not show is the base of the jaw line.

Some other videos about The Healing Code are near the bottom of this hub.

I intend to use The Healing Code process along with the Reintegration Healing Process as I affirm the following:

DJ Lyons: It is safe to be slender. I lose weight easily, quickly, and permanently. Excess weight just falls off of me so easily. It is truly safe to be slender.

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Click WATCH VIDEO to view this movie. She shares the prayer and shows three of the four hand motions of The Healing Code developed by Alex Loyd.

I have been loosely following some of the diet recommended in the following book: Fit For Life. I also have been working the Reintegration Process and The Healing Code. Between January 26 and January 29 of 2011, I've lost 2 pounds in 3 days so far. Woo-hoo! I feel like it's working.

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